The Sexuality Misconception

 

I was reading an article the other day on www.thefrisky.com about bisexuality and the double standards held for men and women: it's not socially acceptable for a man to claim he is bisexual because he is seen as just a slut, while it's perfectly okay for a woman to claim she is bisexual (because women are more in touch with their sexuality and oh yeah, physically attractive). The saying goes; "you're either gay, straight or lying."  In western cultural terms, the norm had always been heterosexuality, but painfully and slowly western culture has begun to accept the fact that some people just happen to be attracted to the same gender that they are and have been that way since they were born. Bisexuality, however, is seen as just an excuse for people to fuck whomever they like. Those who claim to be bisexual are not taken seriously, and are even considered greedy;  you can't have both, it's either one or the other, they say.

This idea has always bothered me, and I think the term "bisexuality" might even be a little bit narrow as a descriptor for human sexuality. The honest truth is that there are very few people in this world who are totally gay or totally straight. Human sexuality is a continuum, not a set of check boxes. Personally, I would consider myself "mostly straight"; I seem to connect emotionally the best with men, have only had relationships with men, but I have also had intimate experiences with women and consider the female form to be more attractive than the male form. As an artist I have always had an appreciation for the varied lines and contours of the female form, and I find a certain beauty in it that I just don't see in the male form. This is not to say that I find men unattractive; believe me, I loves me some Denzel, Brad, and the like, and I can't see myself marrying a woman, even if it ever were legal. 

The point I am trying to make is that categorizing human beings into the column of Gay, Straight, or Bisexual just simply doesn't work; there are too many variables and gray areas that need to be taken into account. Bisexual people; women and men, are not selfish, or promiscuous, they simply realize something that the rest of the world isn't willing to accept; that we are all a little bit gay, and a little bit straight too. Once we accept that then maybe we can get some shit done.

-S.Y.